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I'm Not A Feminist, I'm A realist!

From as long as I can remember, feminism has been taught to me and brought into conversation in a way to say it is the most illuminating movement going, and to not be a feminist as a woman is absurd. I am now 21 and as much as I on the whole, know most women don't like me (they are jealous of me, trust me I am neither exaggerating or generalising), and I do not particularly like my gender, this is not the reason why I do not brand myself a feminist.




After some hurtful of how other females have mistreated and generally speaking been nothing short of a bitch towards me, men have become my best friends in this world. Now if I was you, I wouldn't blow this statement out of proportion or pull it out of context. All humans need and desire some sort of companionship and friendship. Why? Because we don't just want, but need love as human beings for confidence, inner warmth and to be able to progress in life. Since I had bad experiences with females, I had a lot of male friends. Just being in their presence, I started to view feminism in another light.

I understand that women had fewer rights in the UK and abroad a decade ago, but things are slowly getting better and we are starting to live in an equal society. However, this is usually disregarded and not celebrated enough. Women and men for the most part, do get paid the same amount for fulfilling a specific job role in the working industry. Women can study and work in the same areas that men do. Women and men are balancing both the breadwinner and carer role, and we have even witnessed the emergence of the 'new man'. Men now wash the dishes and there has been a rapid increase in stay-at-home-dads and men going on paternity leave.

Contemplating on the vast changes within the social structure of society, I started to think feminism was loosing its mojo. I get why it started off in the first place, women were marginalised and treated like inferiors. So it made perfect sense to start campaigning and protesting against this sort of reality to opt for a much fairer and better one. But now that things have changed in positive ways, why is feminism still in existence? Well I got my own answers. At the expense of men being demonized, women are now being granted special favours and given extra advantages. For example, women are subject to being spoken to in less harsh terms than men, there are numerous schemes set up to cater to women's needs, but as always, men are dismissed from these philanthropic gestures.

Does feminism not demand equality between the genders, then how hypocritical is it that favours women and creates a culture of misandry (hatred of men) by focusing on the negative imbalance of justness for women, in a society that includes men as well.

While some may women might detest me right now, I will stand firm in my opinion that feminism isn't the be all and end all. Feminism was a good movement, but feminism should have made the transition to realism. I'm not a feminist, but a realist. Life is full of ups and downs, so of course there will be problems that arise, but these will affect both women and men. If anything, there should be a movement which seeks to overstand the natures of both genders and come up with solutions for a less chaotic and pain felt society and life.

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